As a coach, I deal with a lot of requests, sometimes demands, from parents for playing time for their son or daughter. I remember the days that I spent on the bench in football. I don't however remember my parents asking for playing time for me. Instead, I was told to work harder and earn a spot. And no matter how hard I worked, I was too small for the sport...and yet, no request! Instead, I found track and summer league baseball. Two sports in which I could excel. I tried other sports, but I was on the bench in every other one.
So why do parents do this? Does it help or hinder the athlete? As a coach, what would you do to get this across (keeping in mind that the parents have signed a paper stating time didn't matter and may not have shown up at the sports meeting before the season began)?
Parents asking for playing time for their kids is embarrassing it needs to be earned by the "athlete" and if they aren't willing to earn it themselves they probably don't deserve the title of an athlete. I know this because I don't get a whole lot of playing time in basketball but I also know if someone in my family went to my coach and asked for my playing time it wouldn't be the same, and I would be completely embarrassed that they did that.
ReplyDeleteI think that the "athletes" should ask the coaches themselves instead of letting their parents. This teaches them to stick up for themselves instead of letting their parents do this for them.
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yeahhhh that's embarressing for parents to ask that for their kids. they shouldn't fight their sons or daughters battles.
ReplyDeletethey should teach them the work ethic to fight them themselves.
parents probably think that because they paid they think their son or daughter should be able to play no matter where their skills are........... annnndddd coaches should not make promises sayin that all kids will play.
ReplyDeletebecause they want their child to play and possibly get better
ReplyDeletei mean playing time is earned not beg or asked...as a coach and a player on a team is not about yourself but its about winning the game and not just playing someone who freaking sucks and sitting the number 1 player on the bench and lose the game by one because of whats so called "playing time"? i mean if you really dont get playing time one a team then you should really rethink about your basketball skills...and when youre on the court are you really playing the game of basketball?
ReplyDeleteParents need to realize that sometimes every kid isnt gonna have playing time every game... i kno my first year of bball i only playede a number of games for very little time... its up to the player to work harder for the playing time they want...
ReplyDeleteit is embarrassing when parents ask and especially demand. when i played soccer my parents never intervened for me about playing time. instead they taught me to work harder so i could earn my place on the team and on the field. it also taught me that if i want something i need to have the courage to ask for it and the motivation to go after it.
ReplyDeletei think they just do that because they want their kids to play even though their not good. but to me i think that if its a close game and you can benefit the team put them in if you cant than support your teammates
ReplyDeletebecuz they want to see their child actually play..!
ReplyDeleteI think that the player should ask for more playing time or simply just what they need to get more playing time or to "get better". It is embarrassing for parents to ask for more playing time but if the player is good enough and should be getting more playing time then maybe the parents should step in and talk to the coach about it but not demand it.
ReplyDeleteplaying time is earned not just given
ReplyDeleteit hinders the player. if the player wants more playing time then they should ask not the parents. i think it also depends on how the coach feels about how good the player really is.
ReplyDeleteit's understandable to want playing time in the game if you've come to all the practices just like everyone else. after you make arrangements and take time out of your whole freakin' day to do that, everyone should get some playing time...accept for those who suck. they just need to give up on sports i guess. doomed! completely just kidding! but the parents shouldn't nag about it, but i would listen and let their child get some time playing! power to the athletically challenged kids.
ReplyDeleteIt's definitely hard being on the bench.. but when u sign up for a sport your not guaranteed a position.. you have to work for it.. and you have to work 10 times harder than the people starting..
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ReplyDeleteAs an athlete the most embarrassing thing my parents could do was request more playing time for me. As a team mate it is selfish to think that you deserve any amount of playing time. If you want more time go to the coach and ask if there is any areas you can improve on. Take basketball for example. If you improve on these things and you still don't get more playing time, see if your doing these things better than someone that is playing more than you and respectably tell your coach.
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ReplyDeletePeople just need to get over it
ReplyDeleteThey wanna see their child play
ReplyDeleteI think that it's better to have the athlete ask the coach to get more playing time. The parents should let the child stand up for themselves
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ReplyDeleteyeah coaches should let their players play because what's going to be the point of being on the team if your not even going to play
ReplyDeleteI love soccer! I can't wait for volleyball season to come along! MEN'S VOLLEYBALL!
ReplyDeletei dont get that much playin time in volleyball bt u have to be a team player and just stick it out and just try to get playin time next game
ReplyDeletebecause they want to see their child play not to be a bench warmer!!!if i was a parent i wouldnt ask but i would help my child become a better player instead of begging his or her coach to put them in the game
ReplyDeleteJuganator you should to track or baseball than volleyball! and soccer is kinda fun to!
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ReplyDeleteParents shouldn't ask for more playing time , for their child . If the child deserves playing time, he/she will get it
ReplyDeleteHigh school students should have 2 earn playing time but in middle school everyone should play because its more about learning and having fun...especially when a private school team isn't that good anyway, everyone should get to play
ReplyDeletei think the athlete should stick up for themselves becaus only they know wat they need improvement in ,not the parents
ReplyDeleteif your not good then whos fault is that
ReplyDeletehold ok change that, if the player isn't that good tell the parent that he/she got into trouble in school so they can't play
ReplyDeleteI'd love to have more playing time for basketball and soccer, but I do believe that playing time is a privelage that you should work hard to earn.
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